Ever met someone who made you feel important because of the way they treated you? If they were a waiter, I bet you didn’t mind tipping them generously; and possibly above the recommended rate!
People “like” us because of the way they feel when they’re around us – virtually or face to face. So, when you make a person feel happy, significant, and validated, they wouldn’t be able to get enough of you.
The 2 quickest ways to accomplish this are:
1. By giving people our undivided attention. Focus on them like they’re the only ones occupying your mind in the very moment you’re interacting with them. You might have so much on your mind, but because you’re talking to them, in that moment, make them your priority. Lean in, make eye contact, and give them feedback.
2. Our attitude is the lenses through which we see the world. Quite frankly, it’s the lenses through which the world sees us as well. Whenever people think of you, a thought and a feeling come to their mind. If you’re someone with a good attitude, you’ll generally see the world in a good light. And when people think of you, negative or tense thoughts don’t surge to their minds first.
People gravitate towards those who make them feel seen, heard, and wanted. It appears to be easier than we think. You can start now by giving the next person you interact with your undivided attention.
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Ugo is an energetic and dynamic youth leader, and also the president of the nonprofit, NEU Gen Leaders. He is the author of 2 books – Secrets of Academic Excellence and The NEU Era. He can be reached at [email protected].